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im sorry it may not be what you want to hear, but a show stopping afro queen sounds gorgeous to me. i think women who have the guts to go natural and wear afros are some of the most beautiful ive seen. im not sure i completely understand the question, but your hair isnt who you are and its not what people see when they look at you- just focus on something else and you will forget about any issues youre having with your hair. the one product i swear by though, and the best possible thing you can put on your hair (AND your face coicidentally), is extra virgin olive oil. my hair was bleached platinum blonde (you can see how light it is in my profile picture there) and it was so dry i could lift a strand and it would stay there. not kidding. it was not even pliable. i used everything under the sun and nothing 'transformed' my hair like they claimed they would. i read about home hair remedies and tried an egg, white vinegar, honey and avocado hair mask with olive oil (which is GREAT to try one a week) and loved it, but a wondered what it would look like if i used just olive oil as a kind of serum- and it was amazing! my hair literally felt like someone elses. but dont worry, your hair is secondary to everything else; im sure youre a beautiful girl, even if you were bald :) try olive oil, and if nothing works, cut it into a cute rhianna-like cut; i just got 3 inches cut off and it made my hair look ten times healthier. it will grow back healthier. do not get chemical processes or dye it for at least 6 months or so- and also put in a spray or olive oil mixed with a thermal protector before you flat iron (but try not to flat iron every day).